These 4 questions can help you figure out what changes you need to make
You may have heard a lot about coaching but never really understood what it is or why it could be valuable.
Does any of this sound like you?
- You have so much more to offer than what you actually bring to the table at work every day.
- You are incredibly passionate and driven, but can’t seem to bring that energy to your work
- You are so ready for change but have no clue what it looks like or how to do it
- You don’t feel like you really fit in where you are
- You’re a dreamer — you want so much more in your work and life, but have no idea what direction to go
- You feel stuck
What if I told you that most of my clients felt the exact same way before we started working together — and that is precisely why they sought out coaching? In fact, when I first got started with coaching — that’s exactly why I found a coach.
Just imagine you’ve been working hard for the last few years, building your reputation in your company and finding success in your work. Now, after 10 years, you don’t really enjoy what you’re doing anymore, but can’t really put your finger on why. You worked hard to get there, and suddenly you don’t know how you even began on that path, or if you’re really in the right place.
Or, here’s another scenario — you’ve worked in a number of different roles & industries. You learn fast, you know you bring a lot to the table and when you love what you’re doing the sky’s the limit. But when you keep finding yourself in jobs or roles that don’t quite feel like the right fit… you don’t get to bring your full creativity to the table and you feel frustrated and restless. There’s a nagging question beneath the surface asking you, “Why don’t I ever feel happy where I am — what’s wrong with me?” or “What is it I really want to be doing with my life?”
Sometimes we get so far on our path that it feels difficult, if not impossible to take a step back, hit pause, and truly reflect on what got us there and if we even want to be there in the first place. Our lives seem to unfold for us, and we take the next door or opportunity that opens up without truly knowing if that is the path we ultimately want to choose.
Every decision feels agonizing because it can alter our future — a future we aren’t even sure what it looks like. Sometimes we become so concentrated on “knowing the path” that we are paralyzed to make any move at all — unsure which way is right or wrong, and feeling stuck in place.
Stuck. That is a feeling we’ve all known at one point or another in our lives. The feeling where you aren’t happy where you are and you know you need to change, and yet, for the life of you, you cannot take a single step because you’re too afraid of what would happen. Afraid that you’ll make a mistake, that you’ll lose your job, that you’ll never find security, that your family will be upset with you. The list of fears goes on and on and is long enough to keep you cemented in place.
Any good coach knows that deep down you are truly creative, resourceful, and whole. Your resilience has gotten you where you are today, and while you might not be able to see it, so has your purpose and your values and your belief in the life you truly want to be living.
Yet somehow you cannot seem to find the red thread that pulls together all the different areas of your life and make sense of all your passions. Or perhaps you’ve buried them beneath years of self-doubt or feeling like you aren’t really capable of doing the things that truly light you up.
When that feeling of being stuck and facing your self-doubt feels so big and overwhelming — you have two choices;
1) Accept that this is how life is and continue on the same path
2) Decide that it’s time to stop letting frustration win and choose a different path.
When you decide that it’s time to change — you have already made the hardest and biggest first step to transforming your life. You’ve chosen to believe that you are capable of being happy and fulfilled.
If you identified yourself in the questions I asked above, this is your wakeup call!
Here is secret #1: You get to choose the life you live.
And now here is secret #2: Coaching can act as a catalyst to get you from questioning how you are living your life to feeling certain you are on the right path.
Now, here’s what you can do about it - take some time to sit and reflect on your life, and ask yourself these 4 questions:
- Where am I in my life right now?
- Is this the life I want?
- What is the life I actually want?
- How am I going to create that?
If you can answer those questions on your own, then do! You already have everything you need today to start living a life you truly love that brings you joy and fulfillment. (For the record, I truly believe this is true!)
If, however, the questions loom overhead creating a sense of anxiety and uncertainty, and just seem too big to tackle on your own — then you might prefer to work with a coach.
Coaching isn’t magic, you get out of it what you put in. And when you truly commit to creating transformational change in your life — meaning, when you invest in yourself (time, money, energy, effort) — I can guarantee you that you will create the changes that you once only dreamed of.
And while I may seem biased, I am a coach, after all, I can speak about the transformative power of working with a coach because not only have I seen it time and time again, but I, too, experienced it myself.
Amanda Parker, Leadership Coach & Founder of The Courage Factory, works with leaders, like you, who want to find more fulfillment and purpose in their life and work.
Through coaching with Amanda, you will clarify your purpose & values, and start to feel confident in your ability to inspire, engage, and lead others.